Girl Behind the Fence: Anger
70% of human behavior is based on emotions, not logic.
It may surprise you but that's why it is very easy to get increasingly irritated at people, places, and things.
For example, does any of this scenario sound familiar?
It's Monday morning and you're ready for the day. Everything at home is calm - pets are happy, coffee is ready, your hair and make-up turned out great, and you look and feel good. You get in the car and slowly and methodically enter morning rush hour. You finally get some open space and, as you move into the fast lane, a very slow driver creeps out in front of you. As you hit the brakes with the required force, you take a deep breath, think a few unkind things, but try to let it go. At lunchtime, the retired guy in front of you is bitchin' about the one-too-many pickles he got on his burger, and now you are running late.... and, as the day continues on, you seem to notice all the bad things about it.
Unfortunately, a version of this story is all too common for many, so it's easy to feel anger around us - from our own children and spouse to our parents, siblings, co-workers, and even complete strangers.
Yet, anger is not always bad. In fact, anger often provides the motivation needed to solve social issues such as gender inequality, the environment, minimum wages, taxes, and student loans. This was the case with many historical figures such as Martin Luther King, Mother Teresa, and Mahatma Gandhi.
Science has shown us that nothing exists without its opposite. Unfortunately, science has also shown us some disturbing facts. Recently, through extensive research on the topic of anger, The Mental Health Organization, Gallup Polls, Duke University, National Mental Health Institute, and others have openly shared these statistics:
64% of the population view the world as an increasingly angry place.
32% of the population has a close friend or family member with out-of-control anger.
12% of the population admits to having trouble controlling their own anger.
28% of the population admits they are worried about their current level of anger.
20% of couples have ended in divorce because of the behavior of the angry partner during the outburst.
Only 13% of those with out-of-control anger have actually sought help for it.
58% of angry people don't know where to seek help in their communities.
84% of the population agrees that angry people should seek help for their anger.
62% of those who did seek help with anger, did so from counselors, therapists, and medical professionals - not friends or family members.
10% of adults have a long history of explosive anger and have access to a firearm. This significantly increases the risk when anger develops.
8% of adolescents up to age 12 are diagnosed with a mental illness known as "intermittent explosive disorder" which is three times more common in boys than girls.
Of these diagnosed adolescents, 6.5% were treated for their anger while the others were treated for depression or substance abuse.
80% of drivers admitted to road rage.
Regardless of age, gender, or geographical location, anger is cumulative. You may be able to control your anger 10 times but, on the 11th time when something seemingly small occurs, you erupt out of control.
All of this information is interesting BUT do you really want to walk around another 20, 30, or 40 years feeling this way? Likely not.
It takes a strong desire and willingness to do the work that can change your angry attitude and the benefits are worth it. Unfortunately, anger can become habitual in one's brain and that's why it is hard work.
Find out if you could benefit from receiving help for your anger by completing the included questionnaire. The more "yes" answers you have, the more you are struggling with anger issues.